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270: How to Know What You Want and Ask for It Out Loud | Heather Hansen

Episode 270

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Welcome to the Say YES to Yourself! Podcast—the show for midlife women, empty nesters, and anyone navigating life after divorce, burnout, or big transitions. If you're ready to shed cultural expectations, reconnect with your true self, and put your joy first—you’re in the right place.

Most of us were never taught to ask for what we want. 

In this episode, Wendy sits down with Heather Hansen, author of The Elegant Warrior, to unpack why so many women struggle to ask for what they want, and what changes when we stop waiting for permission and start using our voices. 

They explore:

  • The three steps for asking for what you want: know what you want, ask for it out loud, and master the art of the ask
  • Why we often ask by implication and hope people “just know”—and how that sets us up for disappointment
  • How to handle "no" and why sometimes you need to ask again

This conversation is practical, powerful, and full of real talk about communication, boundaries, and becoming your own best advocate. If you’ve been waiting for permission to ask for more, this episode might be exactly what you need.

Connect with Heather:

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Get Her Book, Elegant Warrior.

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Referenced in this Episode:

A Course in Miracles

Episode 246 The Numerology of Endings and Renewal | Dina Berrin

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